The first time is different, because we have more to discuss, but basically we will decide why you should be disciplined and then you will receive your spanking. Afterwards, I can hold you, if you need to cry or finish crying. Then we will discuss what you need to do in the future.
You can wear whatever you are comfortable in. Sometimes I tell the person to do that, but usually I pull the panties down -- either way, it will be a bare bottom spanking.
I have been spanking for many years, you just kind of know when to end it. I do allow a "safe word", which will pause the spanking. You will still be due the rest of the punishment, but maybe after a break or the next session. Unless you say the safe word, you can say stop, wiggle, kick you legs, struggle, etc; but the spanking will continue. Understand, this is what you seek.
I prefer to just use my hand. If stronger measures are called for, it could be a strap, belt, hairbrush, wood or leather paddle, tawse, cane, or a freshly cut switch.
While I like the old fashioned, over the knee position, I will allow you to chose. Other positions could be - bent over a desk, across pillows on a bed, bent over with hands on a chair, kneeling on a sofa or bed, on your knees and across the edge of a sofa, chair, etc. I want you to be comfortable, it's only your bottom that will be "uncomfortable".
Yes, I am discrete. You might have a problem, when your behavior changes and you have to explain to you friends what your "solution" was.
I have found that what works best is to create a set of rules and consequences. These rules are based on your needs and also spell out what the discipline will be for breaking that rule. Each time we meet, you would furnish an updated copy showing your results and if necessary, you would then accept the consequences.
What works best is that I slow down and give you more time to handle the spanking, including talking to you and reminding you why you are in this situation.
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If your behavior is not how you feel it should be, then are you not already losing control or giving it up? Submitting to a spanking is really you being in control.
Both. When you decide to accept this, you are admitting that you want to change. Getting spanked is your acknowledgment that you are still breaking rules. As time passes, you will want to show that you can change your behavior and that will be more important than the spanking.
I am in the Charlotte area and will drive to you. I started spanking women when I was young, so I do have a few years experience. I am white, 6ft, about 180#, in good shape, and have never had a problem with keeping a lady over my knee. I don't know if you have ever been spanked before, either for fun or punishment, but I do know how to give both. If you are being disciplined, it will be punishment and you do not have to worry about enjoying it.
If you appear to be young, I will check your id to insure that you are legal age before anything happens.